In honor of our wedding being a little over one month away, I have collected some of my favorite egalitarian articles on marriage. While I don’t believe there is any “one size fits all” marriage advice because every relationship is different, I do think we can all take bits and pieces from the articles below to help us on our journey.
And for those who are still on the fence about egalitarianism, I hope you will open your heart to what these authors have to say. You just might be surprised. 😉
This is an oldie but goodie. In this article, Kristen shares her own story and gives some insight on Ephesians 5.
“But the question is not, “what is the world doing now, so we can do the opposite, right or wrong?” The real question is, should we, in the name of being “biblical,” hold tight to a first-century worldly understanding of male authority? Or should we move forward into the New Covenant of God, where male authority in marriage is replaced by glorious unity?”
Jory flawlessly defends mutual submission from a biblical stand point while also giving us a real life example from her marriage.
“The beauty of mutual submission in a Christian home or church is that all parties involved look to Jesus as their leader and to each other as their peers or siblings. Everyone’s voice and opinion is equally valued and weighed against the Holy Scriptures. There are no power hierarchies based on gender, race, or social status; just as the Apostle Paul teaches as the crux of his theology.”
In this article, Ashley does a fantastic job of answering the question, “If you and your husband disagree on an issue who gets the deciding vote?”
“Sometimes he leads or defers and sometimes I do but mostly we just get along, talk it out and decide together. Neither of us hold a “Divine Trump Card” because of our sex. We each have fluid roles based on our particular spiritual giftings, our talents, personal convictions, The Spirit’s leading, our knowledge of the situation or who it effects more.”
Margaret gives us a brilliant perspective on 1 Peter 3:7 and what exactly Paul means when he calls women the “weaker vessel.”
“It was not unusual to hear women being called “weak” or “weaker” in the first century. On the other hand, many would have been astonished to hear Peter tell husbands to honour their wives. Moreover, Peter gives the reason why husbands should honour their wives: because a Christian couple are co-heirs of “God’s gift of new life” (1 Peter 3:7 NLT). Being co-heirs is a strong basis for mutuality and equality in marriage.”
Here, Rachel talks about the myths and realities of marriage. She also gives some great insight to the myth of “biblical spiritual male authority.”
“Well guess what. I never found such a person. I never found a spiritual “leader.” Instead, I found a spiritual companion to travel with me on the journey of faith, for better or worse, in good times and bad, in times of spiritual wealth and in times of spiritual poverty. Dan isn’t expected to always be the strong one while I am always the weak one. Instead, we cheer each other on, help each other up, and challenge each other to do better. Sometimes we walk side by side, moving along at a quick pace. Sometimes we help each other over boulders and fallen trees. Sometimes I’m leading the way; sometimes Dan is. Sometimes I carry him and sometimes he carries me. The journey of faith is far too treacherous and exciting and beautiful to spend it looking at the back of another person’s head. Jesus leads us down the path, and we tackle it together, one step at a time.”
I love this article because Jory gives us a real life example of a beautiful, loving, and God-centered egalitarian marriage while throwing some theology in there too.
“Therefore, submission as it relates to all Christians (not just marriages), means “under the same assignment.” A Christian marriage should strive to be centered; equal love, respect, authority, accountability, and partnership are key to balance and proper function.”
This article is for those who are unsure about egalitarianism. Robin beautifully explains what a true egalitarian marriage does and does not look like.
“Equality and collaboration allow each spouse to fully function within their God given gifts, talents, and abilities to love their spouse, to serve their family, and to demonstrate God’s heart to the world. Egalitarian marriage is not a way of living that’s meant to be feared. It is a way to live that is meant for the Kingdom.”
Do you have any favorite marriage resources of your own? Let me know in the comment section below!