When a student asks questions this shows that he or she is engaged in the topic at hand. When discussions are held in a company, new progress is made. When a child expresses his or her doubts, it opens the door for parents to step in and create a learning opportunity.
Doubts and questions are such crucial parts of our journeys, so why is it that the church brushes them under the rug when they’re directed towards theology?
I have noticed that the discussions of Christian feminism tend to make Christians uncomfortable. Why? Because it hurts. It’s terrifying to have someone question so much of what they’ve been taught. There are many complementarians who believe that male headship is a foundational belief. They think it’s of core importance in their relationship with Jesus, and if they question it then they have to question God as a whole.
But I propose that we don’t run from our doubt and questions, but instead run to them, embracing them with arms wide open though we may still be unsure. Lean into the uncertainty instead of hiding from it. Start “uncomfortable” conversations within your local church and community.
Ask, “Why would God absolutely want women to submit to men in every culture and time?” and logically search for the answer. For now, set aside that handful of verses you have ready to prevent such questions from ever entering your head, remembering that very similar verses were once used to justify slavery and segregation. Instead remember that God makes sense, and you should never feel pressured to blindly follow certain beliefs just because they’re what you’ve always been taught.
Be vulnerable with God and with others. I believe this is where we truly meet God. In our tears and weakness, His power is shown in all of it’s glory. When we feel lost and confused, He shows up and gives us a new set of eyes.
“Set out, pilgrim. Set out into the freedom and the wandering. Find your people. God is much bigger, wilder, more generous, and more wonderful than you imagined.”
Sarah Bessey, Out of Sorts