You Can Find a Man to Marry, But You Can’t Make Him Lead

I grew up with a Complementarian approach to relationships. I was a firm subscriber to the set-apart femininity lifestyle and after many failed relationships, had resigned myself to wait patiently for my warrior-poet to arrive. After all, everything I read promised he would. I met my husband about 2 years into this phase of life … More You Can Find a Man to Marry, But You Can’t Make Him Lead

I Have A Name (By Bailey Steger)

I believe that the hurt which Bailey experienced, along with many other women, is rooted in male headship. Complementarian theology puts the spotlight on men and lets the women fade into supporting roles. It’s time we put this hurtful and sexist theology behind us, and move towards individuality. Here is her story. – Charlie  I hate being called “Mrs. … More I Have A Name (By Bailey Steger)

R-E-S-P-E-C-T: Find Out What It Means to Me

Part of the foundation of complementarian theology is that because men are natural born leaders who need respect, and women are sensitive and emotional, needing love. In fact, over at crosswalk.com, Mark Gungor says that if a husband doesn’t feel like a hero to his wife, he will become “insulting and gross.” Yikes. I’ve even heard … More R-E-S-P-E-C-T: Find Out What It Means to Me

Sexism in Wedding Traditions (not that anyone really cares)

I always knew there was a hint of sexism in traditional American wedding ceremonies (I mean, how can you not notice it?), but now that I’m planning my own wedding I am beginning to realize just how sexist the traditional wedding ceremony is. While most people don’t think it’s a big enough deal to care … More Sexism in Wedding Traditions (not that anyone really cares)